Don't tell me it's nothing. Don't tell yourself it's nothing because every time you do, your mind is thinking "something" and your nothings become a label for the somethings you wish they weren't.
Similarly, do not get defensive. That shows your guilt if nothing else did. So it looks like I know. I might not know. What are you getting so defensive about?
Your realness does not change my idea of your goodness. I already know you're flawed. Surprise! So am I! But your dishonesty makes you fear me and that pisses me off. I do not deserve your sudden anger.