My father-in-law and I came close to anything approaching a serious disagreement on only one occasion. We'd taken him south for my grandmother's 90th birthday.
True we wanted him in on the celebration but we had a secondary motive. We hoped that him seeing someone comfortable in elder care might prepare him for his pending (and dreaded) transition.
"Treat me like a man,' he said after I'd chided him (once too often) about going to bed one evening.
"Well act like one," I replied. We faced off a moment before he aquiesced.
I wonder, had he peeped my hold card?